KML: Oh, I wasn't vouching for the guy - chances are you could be right. But then - you could be wrong. No way you can assume he is alcoholic based on that. There are way too many possibilities.
Anyway - Gineen never even met the guy.
I refused to meet anyone in person who I met online before I had checked them out completely. If anything in their story didn't add up (like why they didn't have/need a job) - I politely declined. I did a lot of "asking around" and in a city of under 100,000 someone always knew them or knew of them. OK - not 100% of the time (I did date a few from out of my city - like JOSH) but some of the time.
You don't have to call a deal breaker until you hit a deal breaker. And some people repeatedly hit deal breakers and still look the other way.
