My question is: Does this mean we need to change who we are in order to fit with what "the guy" can handle?
I think this goes both ways, that both parties have the challenge of learning, and continuing to learn, how to interact with the SO.
For example, I am very much a "fix-it" person, I do it for a living, it is part of who I am, and something that I enjoy (most of the time). Through this crisis I have learned that that doesn't work all the time interacting with W...so I changed my "natural self" to fit with how much "fixing" W can handle (oh, and I DO like this change, makes interactions so much better, and less stress on me to fix, not feel helpless, etc)...I find other ways to express my fix-it nature.
Does this mean, in your opinion, that I have changed my core self, though I have just re-directed that particular "selfness" attribute elsewhere? Just asking in the spirit of lively discussion ....
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
