I am with you on the inlaws stuff. My in-laws sent my 5 yr. old money on her birthday!! and never even called her. No present to open, nothing! They have fallen off the face of the earth too. They called for new year's. We called on MIL's b-day 1/30 and that's it! H's birthday is today, so we'll see if they call. Oh yeah, they love their son so they will call, but I guess the my kids and I aren't important. Can you sense my anger??
They live far away so I don't say anything to H. Just act as if. You will do great!!!