Now Separated, Am I doing the right things?

[AnotherStander]

First, do you know she really has had sex? She may have just wanted to push your buttons, or try to get you admit that you had.

You might disagree with me on this but I’ve felt it’s important to not always be available for W while DB’ing.

That's true, but you're going about it wrong. The idea is don't always pick up the phone when she calls, let it go to the voicemail and call her back later. Don't reply to texts for a few hours. You want to leave her with the impression that you've got other things to do and are not always available. But, if she's talking to your son and she knows you're right there and asks to talk to you and you basically hang up, you're not sending the message that you're "independent but available", you're sending the message that you don't want to talk to her. Cheeseless tunnel.

I will remain consistent on this and I won’t let W try to scare or intimidate me. Being hurt though, that’s a different story.

Well by all means vent here, that's what we're here for But don't let this harm your PMA. If you goal is to get your W back, remember that you have to show her a positive, atractive, happy you no matter what she throws at you.

I also don’t know if it would do any good to let her know that I haven’t been with anyone. What I do on my free time is my business and even if I told her “I’ve been faithful to our marriage.” I don’t know what purpose that would serve and she probably wouldn’t believe me anyway.

Many of the reconciliation stories here describe how the wayward spouse came back because they knew their spouse was standing for them even throughout their craziness. Their spouse was a beacon of light and hope to them when they were mired in the fog, and even though they spouted horrible things they could always see that light and they were drawn to it despite their emotions telling them to go the other way.