loved your post T2 - thanks so much - i can really see how that dynamic played out in my M. also my mil described the same exact dynamic in their M. so just seems to be universal!

you didn't talk about the feelings of helplessness that the man experiences after the end of the first scenario - which i think maybe contributes to the man walking away. - feeling ineffectual and associating that with their M.

thanks again, and so good to hear that you and w have worked past this. the solutions seem so simple when presented like this - and how many years of frustration and anger and misunderstanding do we all have under our belts because we didn't find another way...

zig

me 46 H 38
M10yrs T 11
S10
BD ow 8/11
h filed 9/25/12


"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"