Topics I've found helpful are :- -affair fog. -gas lighting. -grieving (a relationship).
For me it explained alot of what was going on. Grief especially was helpful. The affair fog and gas lighting is a theory and maybe not to be taken too seriously but for me if gave a bit of clarity.
The vets on here will suggest books to get DB and DR that this site is based around.
Other books that's been suggested to me are :- -5 love laugages. -no more mr nice guy (wish I'd got that sooner) - get your nuts back.
The WAS will try anything to keep her affair high going. Chemicals running around there brain are intense. (you were no different at the start of your relationship with your wife) but its all built on lies so it's probably gonna head downhill quick once they chemicals start to ware off. No promising anything but it seems likely.
Am still new here but I'll try and support anyway I can any new commers.
Please please please tho listen to the vets. Don't act like a needy person or grill them with questions.
Remember it does get better. Letting go has helped me. I said me not my sitch.
Am learning slowly working on me is the best help for everyone especially you.
Kevin
Me-38W-28. M-2 1/2. Together-7 years OM-14/4/12 Told M in trouble-17/4/12 BD-5/6/12 S-5/6/12 ProofOM-17/06/12 Start to change me-31/08/12 EA+PA-14/04/12-now
