Where to begin. My wife has just ended a 4 month infidelity, which I pushed out the door by sheer tenacity I think. Many on another forum suggested that this was an Exit affair on her part and after reading Michelle's book, I truly believe I am dealing with a WAW. Although she has not left, the sentiments surrounding her affair and her comments are very strikingly similar to that described on this website and in Michelle's book Divorce Remedy. The fact that she is still here, perhaps has less to do with her feelings and more to do with her affair partner's inability to leave his own W and kids. Though this is conjecture on my part. Furthermore, the affair was predominately long distance and almost entirely emotional. (I can provide more details as needed). As per the topic of this forum, I believe that I am trying to piece this marriage back together. And while I have been working on it for several months (since D-Day) she claims to have only been working on it for two weeks (since affair ending). She says that she is 'still here and is trying.' My biggest concern now is her comments which approximate the following; She still does not love me, says there is no passion (I was given the ILYBNILWY statement, which led me to confront her about an affair). She is afraid that she can never love me or have the feeling she needs to have. And finally, all of my attempts to get said feeling from her seem to be failing and frustrating to her. Furthermore, I am frustrated and don't know what else to do. So the question, is my relationship still doomed, even if the affair is over? And if not, what steps can I take to rebuild the bridge between us?
{some back story for those who need it: I have been married for 4+ years and have been in a relationship off and on (mostly on) with my W for nearly a decade. We have three children, the oldest born before marriage, and was perhaps the catalyst for our long term relationship, and the youngest is 7 months. We were bound by constraint, but I want our marriage to work.}
