Some Light in the Tunnel

[Hurt84]

It's been a little while since I posted on the forum. For those that don't remember the basic gist of my story is that my wife had an affair with a client of hers that started back in January or February. I found out about it, confronted her, did all the wrong things with the pleading, begging, and so on. By the end of April I suggested a "trial separation" and she moved into her own apartment at the beginning of May. In the time since, I tried not to pursue her or anything but just tried to focus on having a good time in the times we spent together. That worked to varying degrees at first but after a few months I was better about letting go of any expectations and simply tried to focus on living my life.

Well, over the last couple of weeks there's been a big turn in everything. About a week and a half ago she made it clear that she wanted to come home. It's to the point now where she's all but moved back in and planning on breaking her lease this weekend. She's actually in the middle of leaving her job, where she met OM and looking for other work. I'm trying to be as supportive as possible through that but also tempering everything I do, believe or see. Things are going very well between us with one exception - we haven't talked about anything that happened over the last 6-7 months.

Part of my is happy that things seem to be going in the right direction for us and is just focused on turning a bad situation into a good one. Another part of me wants to get some sort of assurance that we aren't setting ourselves up to be here again someday. I mean, I haven't really gotten a full story about what happened with work that she's leaving. Only that she had a huge falling out with a couple of her co-workers and she's currently off, using her accrued vacation time.

There are moments when I feel like there's no point in rehashing all the bad points, thinking some things are better left unsaid. At the same time, one of our main issues with everything was the fact that she was never fully honest or upfront with me about anything related to our separation.

Honestly, I don't need all the answers. I just don't want to set ourselves up for failure and make more of a fool of myself then I did initially by being committed to making it work.