When I was online dating I kept a record of interesting/amusing things single women have said to me (I imagine their list of amusements concerning things I said was probably just as long lol). Here is my collection, which has lay dormant in my computer for the last 8 months and is being released for this thread only
*In my opinion, the ultimate flying machine is none other than the Apache Attack Helicopter *I love to read about Nazi war atrocities *My favourite movies are Bridge Over The River Kwai and The Killing Fields. *When she told me that Alzheimer's patients at her workplace sometimes kick and punch her, I asked if she had any self defense training and she replied "I watch action movies, I like Rambo" * I asked her if she ever watched Dancing With The Stars, she replied "I can't, if I change the TV station the old lady I work with will attack me" *I once dated a guy who kept phoning and bugging me, so I gave him to my roommate. *You think like a grandpa *When I told her what I do for a living she asked, "can you read minds?" *Wow, you work for the Salvation Army, that is so cool! *talking about the ex, "I was way too nice to that man" *At our age we have to be cautious, we don't have time to mess up again! *Communication isn't hard, men just make it that way *When I told her I was going to a political party meeting she said "are you going to be a Congressman?" (We don't have Congressman in Canada, just for the record!) *You've got to discipline me (I'm not really sure what that one meant )
Oh my...you all are GOOD! Let's see, the last guy I went out with displayed his AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) coins and showed me pics of his sobriety cake within the first hour. All while I was drinking a glass of wine.
Another had been in prison (okay, I'm all for second chances). When I 'googled' him I found out he had swindled his investors for thousands of dollars and they were planning on kidnapping him and putting him in a box with his legs exposed to rattlesnakes.
Another guy forgot our second date....
More to come I'm sure.
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
The most surprising thing to me in dating at my age (56) has been finding that (very) young men often come on to me. Now, I'm cute (I think) but really not that special - I need to lose twenty pounds, I've got crow's feet, I'm not exactly Demi Moore. Still, it seems to happen all the time.
Today I had to make a quick trip to my local Home Depot. When I bought my house last year, I spent a lot of time there, getting stuff to fix up my house. Once or twice a chatty young clerk helped me out, and he asked me if I might have a room to rent (I didn't, because I could lose my alimony if I "cohabit" with a man, and didn't feel like giving my ex any reason to stir things up).
So today, a year later, I go in and have to ask a clerk to help me find something - it turns out to be the same guy. I didn't recognize him, but he says "Oh, I remember you! You bought a house nearby that you were renovating". And he makes sure he gets my name. I swear to god - he was definitely flirting with me.
Met a guy thru an online dating place. Went out a few times. With each date he show a more bossy and controlling side. And total opposite political and religious views. I call him Nice Guy/Conspiracy Theorist. His latest theory was that the sliced apples on McDonalds Happy meals are really pureed and reformed to look like apples.
Today I want to meet him and tell him I don't want to date him anymore. I hear him talking and I can just see he is just not the guy for me. I'm not looking to remarry anytime soon. And this experience tells me I'm not ready to date, when all I do s compare to X.
So I spent 33 years with a man who rarely expressed an opinion, who left me to do all the planning and who was emotionally distant at best.
What I need to watch for is that I don't read guys the wrong way, and then find out about huge red flag differences. Maybe ask more questions on the first date.
This sounds trite, but I think I just want friends and then maybe find someone among my friends who will become a bigger part of my life.
Aloha,
Wendy
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
I had a couple of bad first dates that I recall. Just coffee dates.
OK - first one I ever went on - the guy asked me out about an hour ahead of time. But being the first time EVER on online dating - I decided to go so I wouldn't get SO nervous.
So he seemed really jumpy, his eyes kept flitting back and forth - he never really looked me in the eyes. It was unnerving at best. Then at the end - his few words spoke volumes. He asked me if I was "jumpy". Then he said it was "nice to put a body to a face". Say what???
Another first "coffee" date was with a school teacher. I remember going to a donut shop and ordering coffee. He asked me if I wanted a donut too but - before I could answer he said "Nah - you don't need it".
These guys were total OAFS. If I never saw them again - it would have been too soon.
OK Gineen - if your friends can get you a date - GO FOR IT!!! Too bad there's no hockey but he might be looking for something to fill the void. LOL - could be YOU!
That second guy (donut guy) was a "mercy" date for me. He told me he had not been on a coffee date yet - I would be his first and we had put it off a couple of times. By then - I'd already had 2 dates with Josh so I didn't want to go out with him - but didn't want to hurt him. So I went out with him in the morning then with Josh in the afternoon/evening. Never went online after that! LOL!
Sigh...yep, dating is quite interesting. Yesterday in church I met a relationship coach. She's going to call me tomorrow for a free 15 minute consultation. It sounds ridiculous, I mean...I should know how to 'date,' right? I seem to get dates, but I'm not interested after they open their mouths! Yikes....
I'll let you know how it goes.
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
WOW! That's another thing we have in common. My ex also wrapped his car around a hydro (electric) pole once. He had owned the car 3 days! He was charged with careless driving and insurance went sky high (I paid it). He also had to pay to replace the pole! He was in so many car accidents. On more than one occasion he had been drinking (although he often denied it). He was also just a really distracted driver. (Not phone - he loved to peer in people's windows as he drove - creepy!). We split up the day he got a D U I and put the van in a ditch. There was a lot more going on but when he blew 3 times over the legal limit - I had reached my breaking point!
KML - I didn't get that he was an alcoholic from Gineen's post. I got that he drank too much that night. If it happened on a couple of occasions - I'd be inclined to think there was a problem.
