"...Impossible day-to-day - but for 20-30 mins at a time, possible."
And so is that what "marriage" is to you and your H? 20 mins. of sex? No real intimacy or tackling the tough issues? The part I worry is that the euphoria of all this will wear off in a couple of months and then you're going to be left standing exactly where you were when you first started and he'll take off with his GF whom I'm sure he's been feeding info to.
What's your timeline? How long until you introduce some kind of C or retreat for the two of you?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.