Thanks for dropping in! I'm still in awe that it is going this well. He even asks what more he can do it supporting me in pursuing my own interests. Who would have thought we would be here? It is so much different doing this when both of us are working on it! I think the tango for one can work, at least make them interested enough to try and then when they finally have the ephinany, things start to move at lightning speed. Manisha, your advice is still on the top of the list in what saved us, I think: Don't do anything to exasperate the problem.
Manisha, me an inspiration to you? I find that hard to fathom as I find you so impressive, if I could only have your brains and beauty! You also keep me grounded in seeing his point of view, or possible POV. I know enough now with "PB" to stop talking/questioning, but you give me some insight into why. Who would have thought the wreck I was in September and the downward spiral the R was on would lead to this? He said this weekend that he almost threw away love and now he has found it again.
Nik, the 10 minutes was an idea H and T came up with. H always felt that I was throwing the children on him when he came home. I guess I never thought this was so (after the infant stage) and didn't put enough stock in it. Their idea was for H and I to spend 10 minutes in a different room from the kids to just simply talk about our day and reconnect. The kids are getting better about leaving us alone, when they come in we tell them that it is Mommy and Daddy time and we'll be with them in 10 minutes. It is really nice and does make a difference. Now dinner is always late, but I guess happiness is worth it.
We just had a simple, boring, nice weekend, though I did go out part of Sunday with girlfriends to a chocolate fest. Need to keep rowing my boat to keep me interesting to myself and him!
I can't tell you how much the support here has meant to me. I don't know if I could have survived these last 16 months without everyone here. So a big thank you for all the advice and words of wisdom and comfort that have been printed here!
