Mandy, I'm usually quick to try and give support to a WAW who comes here. However, I've been quite to your thread and once I say what I've said, I won't bother you anymore.

I don't think you can see what you're doing. Now, I'm certainly not telling you that you don't love your H. I'm not saying that at all. But, if your H had not gotten involved with OW, and if he was still trying to get you to R with him.....you would not feel the same urgency. I doubt if you would even have the desire to R, if he had continued to pursue you. But he didn't. He stopped and moved on with another woman. Between us girls.....we know that makes him look much better than he did before. Each time he refuses to break it off with her, it causes your desire to grow. Okay, so you may not want to admit that part, but sweetheart you have to stop putting pressure on the man!

Why didn't you respond to what Mr. Bond said in his last couple of posts? You know why. B/c you don't want to face it. Didn't your mother talk to you about girls like that? I bet she did, and if you had a little girl, you'd not want her having sex with a man who was with OW. That's crazy!

Years ago, there was a young woman here who was in a stitch a bit like yours, only she had two kids by her H. She tried different things and finally started to have sex with her LBH. But he was having sex with his OW, too. Know what? As long as she was willing to put out, he was willing to partake. But in the end, he went with the OW. I'm not saying your H will go with his OW, but I'm saying that he will want to have sex as long as you're willing to put it out there free for the taking. That.....or else he'll decide the OW is more valuable and he doesn't want to lose her. Be the woman who is the most valued by him. Yes, he is very confused right now, but you stand a good chance of losing all his respect.

I'm sorry if I sound harsh, but this isn't the way, Mandy. If he did go back to you.....this "passion" would fizzle before the week was out, b/c it's the competition that's putting the passion there.

Please take care of yourself.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!