You sound really good. I am happy to hear you rowed your own boat last weekend. I am working on rowing my own boat too. I want to make sure that when the next R comes along - I find a solo boat rower that I can link up with - I don't want to end up siamese boats like I did towards the end of my M! LOL!
I can see where the "peanutbutter" came from. I know that I was pretty sensitive when The X and then X GF implied that I was the one that needed help - especially if I was feeling like I had screwed up in some way. Right or wrong, I felt like they believed that they didn't have anything to work on themselves - that all of our problems were about me.
Yellow roses are sooo cool! I am glad that you are giving him time to work out the ring issue on his own. He is aware of its importance - remember what an issue he made of your ring just a few months ago. It is possible that some of the hurt/gunk associated with that issue is somehow shaping the timing of his decision to wear his ring again. He will though - he just needs time to sort through his stuff!
The ring might be a good issue for you to discuss with the T during your next alone appointment.
Jackie you really help me believe in R's again. The X and I did so much work - so much of the work you are doing sounds so familiar to what The X and I did. Unfortunately The X's depression won out in the end. For awhile I was so disillusioned - I didn't believe anymore. Seeing some of the techniques work for you make me realize that in the right R, the effort you and your H are making can really pay off and make a M stronger.
