In my case, my H met this woman and other people at a restaurant where he eats breakfast. As far as I know, it was sometime in early 2011. He would mention the people at breakfast, no big deal. In June 2011, he flew this woman and another female friend to FL, which didn't sit well with me. I told him that I did not like him flying single women around. He told me the woman in question was married and thought her H knew.
Fast forward to mid July and H calls me to tell me the police are on the way because the POW's H left him a threatening VM. Apparently they separated sometime in June. I have no idea if this woman was pursuing my H at this point, but clearly, they were having phone and/or text discussions, but still nothing at home, etc. I do know she was using my H as a shoulder to cry on. And I had to get a restraining order on this clown. Talk about embarassing to walk into court on that one.
During early 2011, our relationship at the time seemed to be going well. When my H told me about the POW's H's call, I asked him if there was any truth to the accusations and he hit the roof. He told me that if I didn't believe him, that I could get out, blah blah.
It took us about 2 or 3 months to rebuild but we got back on track until we had a fight in June. During the rebuilding time, he was pretty open about when he saw her or talked to her. And if he wasn't, I asked him and he would tell me. The POW's name never came up and I had no reason to believe she was still around. Her D was final and her hooplah had subsided, so no reason to boo hoo to my H.
After mulling this over today, I feel like I've said my peace to him for now and there is not much else I can do unless I really want to push it and get ugly. Unfortunately, that would be more of the same for me. For me to say my peace and move on is a 180. I will certainly reconsider if I start to notice things.
I did stop by the airport on the way home to get H's business check stubs so that I can reconcile the account. He looked and acted like a deflated balloon. I was upbeat and pleasant. I'm curious to see how he is when he comes home.
M44 H57 D17 (special needs) M 18 yrs Bomb 7/2/12 Still living together
