Accepting reality, moving on with my life

[breakdownbill]

That is the only marriage I will be in. You are free to chose if that is the marriage you want to be in or not.

Well said Chatter, I am quickly starting to realise that it is me who has agency on my choices not my W. If my W doesn't like my reactions to her life choices, that's too bad for her.

I have made it clear exactly how I feel about the current sitch and when my W stated that she wanted a trial separation, I simply stated that I would need to do what is right for me.

My immediate focus is on protecting my interests & ensuring I can get at least 50 /50 custody (primary placement). If it means staying in the house until all the legalities are taken care of I'm prepared for it.

I am going to see what a solicitor thinks about my situation & what my different options are tomorrow.

I can also get free legal advice & more IC from university while I am there, so it is up to me to make the steps to reach out and get help, get organised and prepared for the weeks and months ahead.

I have options and I have choices, doing nothing is accepting an open M IMO however it is rationalised.