OMG HH, I'm away this wk & am reading db forum on my phone.
Your situation sure has escalated!

I don't really have any advice but I wanted you to know that I saw your post and am thinking of you.

If it was me I'd leave w be for now til she calms down & think about what made you snoop & then accuse. I guess its that abandonment/ insecurity button we have - esp sensitive when our spouse seems to be leaving us.

You didn't expand on the lies you think she told.

Tumbling

ME41 H39
T12 M9
Ilybinilwy 10/2010
H moves out 11/2010
H moves in 09/2011 out 11/2011
Try to fix it alone, give up 07/2012
Tumbling to file 02/01/2013 :-)
"Strong on the inside, soft on the outside"