If I was ready to pull the D trigger, I would do it. But I'm not. I haven't read all of your posts on your sitch yet. Has your wife ever admitted to OM and the extent of the relationship?
I like what the DB coach said. I may try to employ something like that in the future. But my H is smart enough not to communicate with this woman while I am around. I used to be a real smarty pants and quick on my feet, but that died with everything else over time.
I've talked to him about work this afternoon and I was very pleasant to him and he seemed ok back. We'll see how the rest of the evening goes....
M44 H57 D17 (special needs) M 18 yrs Bomb 7/2/12 Still living together