Thanks all for stopping by. I can't say that I ever thought of myself as an inspiration. Still hard to believe I am where I am, but I'm enjoying it, that is for sure.
I went and rowed my own boat this weekend for a scrapbook convention, was able to call H to just joke with him and he called me too. Much different than last year where looking at family pictures was torture. On Monday he bought me a dozen yellow roses just to say he missed me.
Wednesday was to be our T day, but the ice decided differently. H went alone and T gave him the boat lecture and also talked about how he needs to be supportive of my independent ventures. Also talked about how we must speak up when something is bothering us, not holding it in, something I think we both do.
We're just hanging out in the evenings, he has now started cooking dinner on Tuesdays so S7 and I can do karate. The spending 10 minutes when he gets home to reconnect is really going well. T even said she only thinks we need one or more sessions and we are out on our own. I semi-joked that I wanted him to see her through his 40th birthday, I got a "peanutbutter" for that one and let it drop.
I'm holding off on the ring, going to do what you advised Manisha and give it the month and then I will say something. His lease is up on 3/6, don't know if that will have any significance, but if it isn't on by then I will speak up. It has such a long history, as when the bomb came 11/02 he took it off, citing that I hadn't worn my for years (I got too fat with S7, didn't wear it, but about 2 months before bomb finally got promised anniversary ring and haven't taken that off). I debated many times to take it off, but thought I'd keep it on as a sign that I still had faith in him and the m.
So we are relitively drama free here. That is a welcome change after the last 16 months.
