Hugs and prayers headed your way. I am soo sorry you are feeling these pressures.
I know the pressures of finances well. The pressure of trying to keep everything "as it was". The pressures of rent, food, clothing, activities for the kids, etc.
What I found was that all of the worry, stress did NOTHING to help the sitch. What I found was that I (not XW, not kids), I and only I was holding on to a lifestyle a way of being that really represented my old life. What I found was that I needed to let it all go. Every single ounce of it!
I sat down one day and determine what I really needed to resolve - rent was the first, followed by food and basic needs. Then I started resolving each and every one. Made deals with creditors, paid stuff off, payment plans..and most importantly...I learned a huge lesson. I learned to say NO.
No to excess for the kids. NO to excess for MYSELF. No to eating out because I was too lazy to cook for me and the kids. I learned to "simplify" my life. I learned to do with less.
Once I learned this I was amazed at how quickly things turned around. Funny, we always doubt God and his ability to give us what we need when we need it and then when we look back we realized that we did it.
Focus on SOLUTIONS and NOT the obstacle in your way. Pffts… F those. YOU can do this!
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it is quickly unraveling.
Sometime that is a good thing. It forces you to “rewrap it” the way YOU want it to be wrapped.
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to keep my head up but I have failed.
YOU HAVE NOT FAILED! That is the old IB talking. You have not nor will YOU fail.
You are success IB….
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
