Sage & Mal, I am waiting for the wedding ring part, but then I think, do I just ask for what I want? Is he wanting me to want him to wear it? Do I just say something once, nice and simple and let it go at that.
Kitti, your welcome!
Holding on, I'm in PA. I've never done therapy except for our disatorous church therapist, but a few friends have told me that if you don't like the person after a few visits to cut bait and find someone new to not get in the mindset where you have started, might as well continue.
Manisha, T and I were talking about the resentment and how that can start eating away at you and that is why she is very strongly encouraging me to pursue some of my own interests and to tell H I'll be out that night, not ask. She uses the analogy (and said there is a book out there with a similar title) that you have to be able to row your own little boat before you can be part of a couple. And once you are a couple, you don't jump in their boat, but hook your boats together, but still rowing your own boat. And it is okay and adventageous to sometime unhook and veer you boat to something that you find interesting and then come back and you bring that vitatility and interest with you. Makes sense. I think H and I jumped into the family boat and haven't spent any time in our own boats! Or even with just our boats hooked together and the kids off with some life vest of sorts.
