The 180's/changes are for you, not to win her back.

She is on her own journey - let her go - I know how hard it is, been there and done that.

Take whatever love you have for her and put it away in a safe place.
A box maybe and put it up on a shelf.
You can always get it down later if you need it.

I can only tell you that
DIVORCE = SPACE
if you dont give her enough she will take it anyways.

Trust the process.

Me-70, D37,S36