So sorry things have taken a turn for the worse, but don't lose hope. Separation is often the beginning of mending hurt feelings. Do not pressure her into returning, right now you need to act "as if" everything is fine even though it isn't. You've also got to do the most difficult thing you've probably ever done and act happy, upbeat and positive no matter what. Do not argue or fight with W about anything, act like you feel like separation is for the best for both of you (it probably is at this point).
Remember saving your M isn't a sprint, it's a marathon. Read and re-read DB and/ or DR and make sure you're putting the practices into effect. Make a list of your 180's and stick with them. Join a gym or run or bike or all. Get yourself in shape. Spruce up your wardrobe. Try a different hair style. Whiten your teeth. And be patient.
Being patient is by far the hardest part, as Cadet is fond of saying quitting the M is the easiest way out. Standing is much harder. Good luck!
