It seems like you are taking all of this very well. I'm happy that you are now working towards resolving this and moving on with your life.
As CB mentioned, there might be some lashing out from your W when she sees that she's lost control of the sitch but you sound ready to face it.
Good luck mate!
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then