Wow! Your H actually said that he loves you more than he has in years!
Give yourself time and work with the T so you can to get past the last year! I think it is great you are working on asking for something for you - you are finally getting to the implementation of other chapters of DR! IMHO, this is such an important part of building a new M!
One of the main problems I had in my M was that I could not let go of the D carpet bombing that The X pulled the last two years of our M. I am realizing that my and his resentment built on resentment. The X's anxiety and fears about the things he had done are what made him finally go through with the D. The more our M floundered - the more emeshed we became in each other's gunk and unhappiness. We were not able to disentangle sufficiently from each other to regain our perspective. My M didn't fail for lack of love or lack of desire to be together - we just really screwed up the piecing part - became emotionally exhausted, stuck and just gave up.
I agree with Sage about the ring. Let putting his ring back be your H's idea! He will do it - he has come such a long way - just continue to trust him.
