Me no longer trying to save the marriage. Probably give her an ultimatum, which probably won't work.
Originally Posted By: ForeverYoung
But then I worry she's going to go out and have even more fun, find someone else and leave me.
Originally Posted By: Cadet
This is a possibility, why do you have this FEAR? Maybe something to LOOK at.
Because this is not a short relationship, it is my whole life. We met when I was 18, and have been together for 33 years. More than anything else, this is why I feel I must give it my best effort.
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One thing I know about MLC is that we will keep repeating the cycles that we are in and they will keep getting worse until we do a 180 and change something.
Eventually we have to choose a course and stick to it, especially when it lasts for years like a MLC can. "Love 'em till they come home" "don't pressure them" and GAL is basically the DR plan in this case. Doing 180's for years isn't going to change a MLC'rs mind, and will mess up your life.
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We can not change them only us.
Words of wisdom.
No more DB for now, I'm off to the Rock and Roll hall of fame!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
