Andrew, yesterday was a really rough day for you and your family. It'll be tough for the next week or two...then a little better. My advice? If you still want to save your marriage, talk to your W about a separation (not necessarily legal-- if you can abide by rules the two of you agree upon.) Three months is usually a good starting point, and then reevaluate at that point. During those three months, you could apply DB techniques. There's a really good book about separation on Amazon. The title is something like, "How separation can help you define the future of your relationship." Good read. It's important that if you separate, you have objectives attached to it; bc she might see it as her time to do whatever she pleases and not think about her M. That's all I can come up with... Let the dust settle before talking about this, though. Good luck. Tori
