Another update. W appears to be re writing our 13 year marriage history. Says she not sure if was ever right, blowing every little thing over 13 yrs into a major issue. Dragging up old arguments, basically making me look like a demon, our marriage look like a lie and absoloutely nothing like what I remember. W told me on numerous occasions how much she has felt loved, how much she loves me, how our sex life was amazing, how comfortable she feels with her body around me and that she can be open about her needs. That has changed to not sure if she ever loved me, sex was all wrong, it was not passionate, I never did diy around the house, 1 night many years ago on a night out I stayed at a friends. I was drunk n forgot to txt her but it was 2am when I realised I cld not get home. Suddenly yhis was a commonplace occurence and that I obviously never thought enough of her etc etc. Then despite all this she says she cld live with me forever, but it is me and her that is wrong, then there is no passion/intimacy and there never has been. Well oh my god! Confused is not the word. I don't recognise the marriage she is describing! Apparently she has doine everything on her own, hospital appts for son etc. I have been there for all except a few routine check ups that I cld not get time off work for. Then she says it is not me but her that has changed, then reverts back to needing to find herself and leaving is something she must do for her. I am speechless!
