RegretfulLA, I do go to al anon. I journal, talk to my sponsor and others, daily meditations, and attend 2-3mtg a week. However I felt like I unlocked my deep rooted emotions using Pema's suggestion on patience.
Thank you for reminding me of my 12steps!
M 42 H 39 T10 (-2yrs separation) S8 D5 DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA) Reconciled 6/2013 Separation in works 1/2017