It's been a very quiet weekend on this board and, fortunately (I guess) on the home front as well.
So quiet in fact that I ended up doing some searches on the internet for the sake of seeing what I could do around here to save my relationship in the event my W decided to reconsider her position.
I came across the Retrouvaille program and it turns out it is offered in Singapore, which would make it feasible for us. Also, they just happen to have one of their three weekends a year on the weekend of our anniversary (it'll be our 10th) at the beginning of April 2013.
Now I know what you are going to say about setting my own timelines for things but for the time being, it's just a questions I have about the program and goals setting.
First, about the Retrouvaille program. Can this program work even if one of the spouses isn't 100% sure that they want to save the couple? What I want to know is, if I can convince my W to give it another try and if she came just to humour me (like many S seem to do with MC), would we still get something out of it?
What kind of activities are involved? I heard that there was a strong religious angle but that it was possible not to take part in certain activities. From what I read, the one in Singapore, being in a small multicultural city/state, is geared more toward a wider range of people.
Now, about goal setting. Is it unreasonable to set such a long term goal as:
"I would like my W to agree to come to the Retrouvaille program in April 2013"
I know, reading it now, doesn't sound reasonable. What could I do to make this happen? I guess it'll be up to her and how the sitch evolves between now and then.
I invite your thoughts on this. Thanks.
By the way, I know I'm still only a few weeks into my plan but it feels like things aren't moving at all. In fact, if they are, it feels like they are moving backwards. There has been no contact since last Friday (at all - except for a text from W telling me about school payment - I didn't reply, it didn't require a reply). It just feels like a few months ago, we were friends, doing stuff together as a family and now, we're total strangers. Is this normal?
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
