It can also make one realize they get along fine without the other.
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Have you been distant for your whole marriage? Or were you the pursuer?
I've been the pursuer for contact, but I also was happy as a loner with my hobbies.
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You asked how you make it for 2-5 years. My answer is one day at a time. Sometimes one hour or minute at a time.
Right, but I have needs for physical contact that are not only not being met, but I can't even talk about them! Seriously, going without sex is bad enough... but no cuddling, hugging, even holding hands? I don't see how anyone can do this for years.
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Have you read the resources on the MLC board?
Yes, and quite frankly spending too much time there depresses me. Especially the long personal situation threads that just keep on rolling over. The more I read that stuff, the more I want to give up. It seems better (for me) if I just concentrate on trying to have fun. But then I worry she's going to go out and have even more fun, find someone else and leave me.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
