You have to prepare yourself as the LBS for dealing with the very reality of the sitch that we have been avoiding.
DB helps you work on yourself, get back on your feet and get your confidence back.
Most marriages are in a critical state when they are trying to be saved on here, some people get through to their WAS and prove that their changes are real.
Unfortunately when an affair is in full swing, the odds are stacked even higher against you.
It's a horrible way to learn these lessons, but ultimately YOU benefit for going through it and become a stronger person.
Just keep posting here and people will keep your spirits up no matter what's happening in your sitch.
Bill
Me 34 W 32 D 9 S 6 M: 9 years T: 12 Bomb: 02/11/12 EA/PA: 12/17/11 - ongoing Moved out: Oct 2012 Joint Filed for D: 2/11/13