Accepting reality, moving on with my life

[breakdownbill]

A word of advice. Mrs. breakdown is going to wonder why your standing on your feet. So she is going to test you quickly over the next few weeks. As things do not go according to plan she will last out at you as 'naturally its all your fault'.

So just be civil , polite and remove yourself from the conversation.

Thanks for the heads up, I fully expect her to start acting out. Today she came home from her parents house after being there only 10 mins after getting into a row with her mum.

I think she's also confused because I haven't acted the same way I did when she 1st gave me the bomb. She thinks the door would've been left open for her to explore happiness elsewhere and for me to just wait and welcome her back with open arms.

I'm not waiting for my W to do anything anymore, I'm done with wondering this or that, now I know. I'm only going to get stronger and I'm going to start GALing for real.

If neither of us can afford to buy the other out of the house, selling would be the best option for me. I want the best for my kids when living with Mum or Dad.

That's a conversation that'll get W's back up.

All options need to be explored, not just for the house and the kids.

I don't want to stay separated for long and feel in any way an option or back up (plan D), separating finances and talking through the logistics of who is going where needs to be sorted out. D's birthday is on Thursday so most of our conversations are about that right now. After Thursday I'm going to bring up the conversation of separation again and discuss the options and finance for how we are going to split. This gives me time to do some homework on options, but also doesn't leave this situation unresolved.

I'll keep you posted

Bill