Well I am doing as much as I can to remain posative, smiley, laughing and looking/smelling great around her.
Let's reframe this a bit. Picture your life and your W's life as a Venn diagram-2 big circles that overlap. Your life should be about you being positive, smiley, smelling good in the life you are creating in your big circle that she knows very little about except in that small overlap where she is exposed to the new you.
Don't make it that you're doing this for W, you are doing this for you (I hope),because in the end,the only thing you know for sure you will have is you and your life.
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I talked to a friend this morning about taking an overnight trip together to NYC this fall.
Great idea, make it happen.
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The issue I forsee with my sitch is that my W is incredibly stubborn and when she gets something in her head hell nor high water can move her. It's funny because it's something I used to love about her, that she stuck to her guns no matter what now it has me sad because I know how difficult it is for her made up mind to change.
While I understand your concern, this should in no way affect you creating your life, your big circle. You have no control over what she does, so work on you, make yourself the better option.
Stubborn people are often controlling and have trouble with new ideas and changes, sometimes they are passive/aggressive. Does this describe your W? It doesn't change anything you need to do but I think it's good to be realistic about our spouses and not take all the blame for the R troubles on our shoulders.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
