So here's my story part 2

[labug]

In your W's mind she is no longer married to you so she can act however she wants. You should view this the same way, you are no longer married. Do you feel your children are at risk? How can you best protect them? When substance abuse is involved, you can't sit and wait for the light to come on in your W's head. It may never happen.

Call your L first thing tomorrow and figure out what you need to do.

Your W is sharing inappropriately with an 11 yr old. Can you get some counseling for your D?

Have you thought about AlAnon? You should.