After 18 months - H is finally filing.

[BklynMom]

Ditto exactly what 25 says.

It is understandable that you are grieving don't minimize what you are going though.

My h has the same mentality as yours. He is not doing anything to his kids, he is only leaving his wife. The kids will be happier cause dad is happy, they wouldn't miss any of the comforts of having 2 parents together in 1 comfortable home and having a shared income level.

Only time will teach your h that he is nuts. We need to be more patient, amazing and kind then imaginable because he is comparing us to a swooning other woman.

Is there anything you can do to help with your finances without working. Maybe a college student who in exchange for a free bedroom will babysit 10hrs a week? If you are home can you cook meals for working moms and get paid under the table.

I don't think you should work full time but I think there are many ways for you to work off the books from home so you are not completely dependent on him. Be creative