You sound like you've reached a good place. And your story sounds similar to mine. H in his 50s, married OW - our kids are grown. Although we split 11 years ago and got divorced 7 years ago. My youngest was only 12 when he left. We do have minimal contact now because we have a disabled son together. Son lives with me, though and his dad only sees him about once every 6 weeks or so.
It's not uncommon to still feel angry. I even do at times. My ex drank as well and that was a problem. I can only tell you that now things are much better. Like you - I've moved on with a new home, good friends, hobbies, recent retirement and a new man (well, not so new now - we've been together a number of years).
