I've been hanging around the MLC Board for the last 2+ years, and realize that, other than offering help and a sounding board for those going through the breakup of their marriage, I probably belong over here.
My divorce was final over a year ago. XH married the OW, and as our children are grown, we really have no reason to maintain contact. XH is apparently still going through the tunnel. I last saw him about 3 weeks ago, and he was grossly overweight and looked terrible. Although this worried me for a few days ( old habits die hard) I realize it is not my problem to stew over.
My focus has to be on me, and becoming the best me I can be.
Time and distance does give some perspective. I realize now that I did have a great deal of anger toward him for his drinking and choices in life, that I did after a manner put up a wall and push him away, but that is all water under the bridge. So, here I am. I have a new home of my own, a good job, friends, family, and am feeling more like MYSELF, than myself has felt in a long, long while.
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011
