Dropping the rope, hope I'm doing the right thing.

[hopefulinga]

Well said, sweet. I feel the same way but all of my statements in the past to H came out like "We don't spend time together" or "you don't spend enought time with me", which made me look selfish and I like I wanted to be the center of attention.

I also would like my H's friends to understand that we are in a circle of marriage and that they are outside of that. That's a further in the future goal.