I am going to speed up the divorce process. I want to be D'ed by the end of the year. There is no point in stretching it out. I sent H a message detailing all the things I would like to happen, then he called, wondering why this is happening so suddenly. I agree with him, a week ago I was saying we could keep being separated until the house sells. But, it's going to be a long time before that happens. I proposed that we rent it out, and once divorced we can get smaller places for ourselves. We can split the furniture, since we've got a lot of stuff. Or, (just thought of this) he can stay here, get roommates to cover the mortgage, because he will only be here 2 weeks out the month.
So, there it is ... a lot more was said in my initiating email, and in our conversation, but the gist is that I'm not expecting any possibility of R, that I need to get divorced and have our affairs separated, except the one's noted, and we can get on with our lives. I told him I'm not resentful, wish him well, hope he finds happiness, yadda yadda. I am peaceful with this choice. I'm happy within myself ... I'm sad about some things, i.e. his mom never visiting us again, our divorce, my one daughter feeling sick, etc., but it doesn't effect my core happiness in life and all it has to offer. Bad things happen, but good things do too.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
