Hoping it's not too late

[Just A Guy]

Process yes... Keep that up, I just took a huge backstop a few days ago and it hurt. Make sure you set the precidence and stick to it. Show him you are ready to move on with or without him.
Let me explain it in A different light. What you are doing is akin to telling a child no video games until they finish their homework. Then 5 minutes later letting them play the video game with out finishing their homework.

Now if you repeat this with the kid for weeks on end do you think that child is going to learn anything or take you seriously? Or are they goin to think less of you and disrespect you and think of your rules as a joke...

Every time you backslide with H you let him know that you are weak and he can do what ever he wants with no consequences. NOT the message you want to send him!!!