I've read Pia Mellody's books "Facing Codependence" (it's a much used reference actually) and "Facing Love Addiction". I recommend starting with the former because love addiction is one symptom of codependence so it really is key to understand that foundation. NG may have a review based on starting with the latter.
On her website Pia has lots of CDs. I've listened to the series "Co-addicted Relationships" many times. That's where she mentions the "yuck" phase, and all sorts of other things that sound awfully familiar. It's a good description of how codependence and love addiction play out in relationships, along with a detailed approach to healing.
I've also listened to the "Boundaries" series and found it very helpful. I believe Adinva's IC actually "prescribed" it. I'm frequently spouting quotes from it.
I picked up a germ in my travels. Second time I coughed last night, P headed for the couch. Oh well. I got a little cuddling before that.
NG, I stopped at Home Depot this morning and landed right in front of the neon duct tape display. It was all I could do to tear myself away...
