Jackie, When did your sitch turn around... I know I should go look for it... but was wondering if you could tell me. Is there OW in the picture? Thanks a lot.
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
For me it seemed to turn around when H started seeing a T. We had talked about that before and he had always been against it. Once he left, I did the drop the rope thing, I didn't call, email or contact him except for a card in the mail every two weeks or so, just so he would know I hadn't given up on him. We had daily contact because of the kids, but I tried to keep it light and short. I think once he left and was still unhappy and I was pretty much out of the picture it hit him that perhaps it was something else that was wrong. He said that he and T talked a lot about what is important in his life and to prioritze. He said when he first went in she asked him his priorities, I was #4, I know kids and work came before me, I forget what the third was.
We still have a long way to go, I don't feel out of the woods by any means, but sure am enjoying the good days! I also think the two weeks the kids and I were away visiting my sister helped with giving him time to think.
Yes, Jackie, thank you, it does help. I am going to try to go back and read your threads.
I wonder if time is the big healer, though. The fact that your H was away from you and still unhappy. That I think must cause them to think in some respects... it wasn't her...
I hope that is the case with my sitch... I am trying to let my H heal and hope that he will figure it out for himself.
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
I like your goals for the weekend, too. You seem to be making lots of progress...slow but steady...and that is wonderful...sometimes when things happen too fast..they end up exploding again like they did with my sitch...so take it easy...be patient...and laugh and love ...and live and listen and let go for your sake and your spouse's sake....wish I could take my own advice LOL....
Just wanted to say HI! Holdingon, I think when H went on business trip for 2 weeks to Europe it was a good thing for him. It wasn't a good thing for me but good for him to be away from kids and he felt really good about traveling but was glad to get "home."
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