wear different colognes, b/c it's about you being attractive, NOT attractive to HER, and maybe wear new different clothes and
please, stop making plans as if you are going to be together. That's futurizing and she's only feeling pressure when you do it.
ACT AS IF YOU GET IT, and stop arguing FOR the marriage. Act like you accept, albeit with resignation, that she wants to ruin her life. NOT YOURS, hers. You'll be happy again no matter what.
And stay warm and upbeat but when pressed, show her that you heard her...
yes, you know, she MIGHT NOT ever want to be with you again,
you know she may not ever FEEL attraction again and of course
you know she has NO control over that and blah blah blah... ( I don't buy that b/c love is at least partly a choice)
at least act as if another woman might find you attractive and that you KNOW it.
Like it's going to be HER loss. And accept that she is confused so you will get mixed signals. That's what confused people send.
And they do "touch and go's" to make sure you are still there, waiting, still, and whenn they fear you might be moving forward, they'll show some affection to make sure they can still reel you in. Sometimes it's more than that, but often it's just a touch and go. You'll know if she pulls back soon after she confirms you are still waiting. Then she backs off again.
Now and then, don't be so available. Be a bit mysterious, please.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
