Berto & Totite, I was surprised to see you think I'm so positive, I don't feel that way, but maybe I'm slowly moving in that direction. I'm still annoyed at him at the Pinewood Derby thing, thought he should have put the focus on S, not him, but I'm starting to wonder if I just assumed he was doing that, if I quickly fell back into the old patterns of how things were that I quickly made that ASSumption.
Looking at what Sage is doing, made me think if the things I get annoyed with H are those things that I don't like about myself. If I'm too much of a perfectionist and I'm not letting H work though things and I'm too quick to find the "proof" that he really isn't working on things. Maybe he was wise to retreat to his place for a few days, gives me some time to think and get my mind back in the right frame to get things accomplished.
I need to let go of the weekend and look towards the next weekend. It didn't work out and possibly because I had expectations I didn't voice and made assumptions I didn't verify. Oh, could it be me who is also at fault?
Nik, Getting Back Together is very similar to DB, but worded differently. There are a lot of journaling excercises that I really need to do that try and get you thinking about what you need at this stage of your life, try to figure out what triggers both of you into downward spirals and where things went wrong. It doesn't give a lot of ideas on what to do, but does get you thinking about what you really want and need in a realtionship. I'll look up the one you are reading.
