The truth is that I've had a YEAR AND A HALF to DB, to change, to show my H that from this moment forward things could be better with me. Heck - to at least make him doubt. Ultimately, to become the best me possible.
But the truth is that I have not been successful.
Michele points out in her books that despite our best DB'ing efforts, sometimes things just don't work out. DB'ing unfortunately does not offer any guarantees. That is no reflection on you. You are a great person and you have a lot to offer if not to your H then to someone else. It's normal to have these negative thoughts about ourselves now and then, but try to refocus on your positives and know that you do have a great future ahead with or without your H. Since you've been served D papers and your H has been in a 1-1/2 year R, it sounds like it may be time for you to drop the rope completely for your own well-being.
Originally Posted By: keep_going
Why? Why am I failing?
You're not. Your M is, mainly due to the actions of your H. Read Dobson's "Love Must be Tough" if you haven't already, it'll help you to realize that you're the victim, not the guilty party.
