Accuracy - I have read your sitch and does sound similar to mine.
However, I wish my Wife would get angry or do something. Problem is she does'nt. She is carrying on like everything is normal but occasionally throws in a curve ball. For example she was talking about doing a workout video. I suggested going to the local gym. She said we could'nt afford it (we can), but when I told her this she says she would not be able to keep it up when she moves out. I just said fair enough and ended the conversation.
Although she has been confused re feelings since December 11, we have had the 3 day break in March 11 when she returned willing to make a go of things our seperation and ILYBNILY is only 3 weeks old albeit living in the same house.
1st week we argued and I pressured her. 2nd week we avoided each other, I started to fully come to terms with what she was saying and looked at hard at my part. 3rd week I have started to work on myself even more than before, helping more around the house, letting her have more breaks from the kids, been trying to detach, and started up getting my own life back. But boy is this hard.
It is this 3rd week that has been the most confusing though. Per my last post she suggested a takeaway and watching a film, she is even making jokes! It is like we are still married!! and this is the trouble I am having. One of her issues is me not paying her enough attention, giving her enough support, and generally us drifting. However, how do I let go and give her the opp to miss me etc without confirming everything she is accusing me of. We still are spending a significant amount of time together and not arguing.
I have to say a lot of what she has said is true but not in the way she sees it. I was just misguided in my efforts to please her as I expect a lot are in the same sitch. However, the advice from here has helped me understand what I had not provided. She has also apologised that whilst she gave hints, she should have been clearer. There is no need for her to apologise for this - If I had paid enough attention I should have seen for myself.
Is there anyone who can please advise me how to be around her. Should I make a point of spending less time, or should I make sure that the time we are together is enjoyable?
Thanks and hoping for a response. Reading these forums are keeping me sane at the moment.
