MrBond, I hear you, but my question to you is, after she left, where you able to reconcile?
Like MrBond, at one point my W asked me why SHE should leave rather than ME. I reminded her who was saying they wanted to leave the marriage and who was working hard to keep it together. I told her she could stay there WITH ME just as long as she wanted, but if she wanted her "freedom" then that was her responsibility because I wasn't going anywhere. She said she understood and she never mentioned it again. I think she respected me for standing firm on that, I showed her that despite my pain I wasn't going to be walked on. She's shown no ill will about it since. That was about 2-1/2 months ago and she's just now moving out. My life is in enough turmoil without leaving the home I've worked so hard on for 13 years. As a side note, W is discovering the kids don't like leaving their home to go to her place. They gripe that it feels too "empty" although I'm sure they think it feels foreign too. One more reason to hold your ground.
Regarding reconciliation, we're not there yet but I'm hopeful. But I will say I've read plenty of WAW stories here in which the woman left and reconcilation did take place eventually. It seems to take anywhere from 3 months to a year unless MLC is involved (and if so, much longer).
