So what do I do when MC is saying its good to be affectionate and W isn't at all. I am not being affectionate as well and trying to follow sandi2 rules in regards to not initiatin contact, ILY's etc... So confusing now. Thought I had a great path but not anymore.
That's for MC to communicate with your wife and your "current wife" decides its a good thing to do. Right now she may feel "I cannot make myself FEEL like I want to do it". She may not know that for her to feel like doing "the act", she may have to do the act.
Somehow you have been friend zoned, and many of us became even less than friend zoned, because you wouldn't do your friend like that!
Just A Guy, you have to look at it how she is looking at it. What is the demand you have, to be treated in an intimate fashion? If you look at it like she looks at it, you may find that whatever group of people she associates with that if you can get them to see you in demand, that the current W may come back. Once you get this, you have to hold it.
You don't do it for her, you do it for you. Some materials worth reading "Double your Dating", "No more Mr Nice guy". It basically says that the relationship dymamics in attraction are nearly opposite of what you may expect.
So yes, get back onto GAL mindset. And like you said, you are an attractive and handsome "devil" who can have nearly any woman you want, if that is what you really want. You have to make that reality, not for your W, but for your own piece of mind.
