Good questions. The answers are, I'm not waiting. I'm moving forward with my mind and soul. Should another man ask me out and I'm attracted to him, I'll say yes. My thoughts are of my future with my family and friends. His life belongs to him. I'm not disappointed that he's not put the question in a priority position in his life. In fact, I'm somewhat relieved as it confirms my opinion of his value for me and makes my decisions easier.
I really don't think I'm trying to save the marriage anymore. For that to happen, he would have to make a major commitment to me and to saving the marriage. As it stands now, I think he's keeping one foot out the door and sticking the other in the water to test the temperature. The water is very cool.
He has a lot of pride. My DIL thinks that he felt our M was unbalanced and that I was a strong woman and he felt he was too weak. She thinks he's been enjoying his position of power over me for all these months and now thinks, because I have given him an opening with the "question", his power is returning.
I won't be drawn into these immature games. My IC advised me to let my next romantic relationship be with a man of my own age. There's a lot to be said for that.
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
