afternoon / morning guys . First of all thank you cadet for keeping an eye on me , i really value your input and yes i'll disregard the above post , but hope a_man_lost is ok . Secondly i dont know why i seem to have a smiley face next to my name all of a sudden ? wierd . Right down to business . Bad bad bad bad bad. Bad day yesterday , i saw my W mum at the gas station where she works and she is very upset/angry and confused like myself , we spoke for a moment but it left me feeling sad all day . Then at night after my wife had gone to bed , i know i shouldnt have but i sneeked a look at her emails . She didnt know i knew her password , i know i shouldnt have , id just had a bad day . Anyway , shes going to a comedy gig tonight in birmingham (uk) and spending the night in a hotel . Thats fine , earlier she told me it was a cheapish one in the centre of town . Shes going with her friend from work whos at a low ebb herself she claims , a female friend . Anyway on her emails was a conformation for a really nice room at a really nice hotel , for 2 king sized bed , under the name well a mans name . I was astonished and stupidly confronted her , first she was p. off that i was snooping but then she said her female friend booked the room through work and this guy gets great rates for rooms and he booked it all for them . Apparantly this guy is some manager where they work she also said that if she told me of the real conformation i would have hit the roof , so that is why she lied about it. I asked her if she was having an affair and she still swears blind she is not , explained that it looks really dodgy but swears to her story that he booked it for the 2 women . Well of course after arguing she says theres no way back and the reason she wanted out was because she wants to be on her own , was never 'head over heels' with me and she thought when we got married she could accept what she felt , but now she knows she cant and it was a mistake to marry . This morning she says she wants to move out and to sort out our assets . She's asked me not to call her work because people including her could get the sack ( fired) because in her words this guy is not really allowed to get good rates for outside of business stuff . Im torn , i want to believe her story , but it stinks . Shes sworn on our childrens lives she isnt having an affair and i want to believe her . Ive asked her to provide a photo of her and her female friend at the concert and the hotel room to proove her story . She says ok then . Its really mucked up right now , but i just have to know even though theres no way back now . Help what do i do now ?
